Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Jo Rocks. Fullstop

seriously, thx la Jo. din expect that at all. haha. but thx so much for the trying to help me win and all and especially the encouragement. really encouraged with your post wei. haha. no wonder you're Jo the Pro. you're the best la. haha. thx! don't think i know anyone else who would do such a thing for me. cool la you. :D

in case ure wondering what i'm talking about, click here.


k honestly, i'm not expecting much from the contest la. my vid is really nothing special. i made it like a few hours after the song was released on iTunes a month ago. so it's like not perfect and all. kinda rushed through it. and considering it's exam time, i don't have to fix it and add in special stuff. so it's just me playing guitar. nth gr8 i guess. wanna see awesome stuff? check these two vids out.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IJXBwJxgVCQ

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YXAK-42R0yQ

these two are the best and what i like so far. if anyone deserves to win. it's these two guys. and actually, i don't mind not winning. i'm in it for the experience and to get reviews on my playing actually (and i do think i played perfectly, otherwise i won't be posting the vid. haha). plus the prizes are ok i guess. the prize btw, is a phone call with the band (which in my case i dunno if it's good or bad, since i REALLY don't do phone calls. i mean i don't even know what to say!) and also a limited edition car kit. and considering i don't have a car now, isn't really very useful. BUT, it's just fun to join so why not.

oh and one thing i realised is how AMAZINGLY encouraging. i mean, think about it, this is someone you don't know a.k.a a stranger. and here he is telling you you're good and telling you how to be better. and when you tell him that you're not that good and can't sing and all. he encourages you even MORE. telling you not to give up and not to compare and all. and basically there i went too amazed to respond. cuz seriously, this guy doesn't even know you! but here he is telling you that you can do it. heck, some friends don't even encourage. and a stranger can do it.

which got me thinking, maybe we don't like encouraging friends or telling them they did good or was awesome. maybe somehow we feel that if we do that, we're acknowledging that they are better than us, and heck we sure don't like people being better than us. or maybe it's just the way we've been brought up that makes us not give out healthy encouraging words. maybe we don't like seeing other people succeed. i guess it's all just a mix of jealousy and selfishness.

but then again, sometimes when people actually do give out good comments, we doubt it. like we wonder if they really do mean it or they are just saying it cuz they are our friends. i know of someone who tries so hard to be a nice guy it has become so fake. why? imagine someone who comes walking into your flat when you're cooking and says "oh the food smells good ben". he does this everytime, but when one day he comes in and says the exact same thing and you HAVEN'T started cooking, you know that it's fake. cuz seriously, how can the food smell good if i HAVEN'T started cooking??

so i guess sometimes it's easier to accept compliments from strangers as well. cause they have no reason to compliment and encourage someone they don't know right? so you know it's sincere. and i guess with friends, you kinda expect something good but at the same time, if you do get something good, you doubt whether it's sincere or they are just saying it cause they're your friends.

confusing right? i mean, to encourage would be wrong (cuz it may seem insincere) and to not would be wrong as well (cuz friends should encourage each other right?). so either way is wrong. gr8.

so i guess we should all just be strangers. it's easier to accept. :)

aaaah crap. i think the exam stress is getting to me. well something to think about i guess. sorry if you here to destress and ended up more stress thinking about this. haha.



Currently Listening To: Hearts Burst Into Fire - Bullet for My Valentine

7 comments:

Bernard "xiaoqiu" said...

Most importantly is that we must know how to be an encourager.. i am just so pissed off with people who just know how to criticize and give negative comments but not praises.. Everything that comes out from their mouth is all about the bloody negativity...Really fed up la..

Anonymous said...

Huh?? Ben, what talking you? Read halfway I went blur and then suddenly the ending was..encouraging is wrong and we should be strangers. That's where I got lost and realised I dunno what I was reading actually..HAHHAHA!

Summarise for me another day la yeah..haha! Oh btw, I always encourage you what..don't I always tell you that you're the best?? :D Everytime I say that you must be thinking I'm making fun of you righttt..I say it from the bottom of my BIG BIG heart ok! Hehehe, oh sorry..now become like self-praise already.

I seem to be writing an essay..hahahaha..

Anonymous said...

Oh that anonymous is me, sorry..

KIMBERLY said...

HAHAHAHHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! What the crap..

Now, it's me!

glo teng said...

lol. kim - you are hilarious! :p haha. now i know why BenJ was laughing about this.. haha.. :p

Josef said...

whos this jo guy la, like so cool only :P
btw i the next song ur goin to play sounds nice la (based on food smelin food in case u didnt get it)

i love you :) is that encouraging?

Ben J said...

Kim: u made me laugh like crazy la that day. haha. and what i meant is that, it's easier to accept compliments from strangers cuz they don't have to give it out but they do so it must be sincere. (i guess) and encouraging is not wrong la. just be sincere la. it's just that sometimes you give or don't give encouragement can be taken the wrong way la. haha. complexnye.

Glo: haha. now u know la. :P

Smith: yeah he's a cool guy. haha :P and what food smelling food all? hmm. and i love you too. :D haha. and i dunno if it's encouraging la. but i'll take it as it is. haha.